Just returned from my NST. My least favorite nurse there, (and not for anything serious, she just isn't my favorite) impressed me today, and I have more respect for her.
I heard her talking to a pregnant woman next to me. At one point, the pg. woman mentioned not feeling as much movement because her baby was getting so big. The nurse asked if she was doing her kick counts, and said something along the lines of, "As long as you are getting your kick counts...." The woman admitted she hadn't been doing them because she had been so busy. The nurse's reply? She wasn't mean, or rude, and didn't say anything to make the woman feel bad about it. However, she stressed the importance of doing them, told the woman she knew it was hard to make time, but to think of it as making a date with your baby. Then, she said, "It's really important, ever since we started this, it has shown to lower the chances of stillbirth"
I was impressed she even used the word stillbirth. Before I lost M, I never once heard any nurse or doctor use the term stillbirth or as they like to call it, inter-uterine fetal death. I never read it in any of the books I read on pregnancy. For her to use the term, to broach the topic so easily, and to use it to educate this woman impressed me. Now, did it make any difference? Probably not, because until it does happen to you, you never in a million years think it could happen to you. But I think the medical establishment needs to start talking more about it.
Of course, as I lay in the next bed, and I heard the woman say she hadn't been doing them, I was alarmed, but not judgemental. How could I be? I was the same, very busy when pregnant with M, and I didn't notice his last movements. I don't know the last day he was alive. That fact still haunts me. When I go to NST, I often lay there thinking how different I am from probably most of the other women there. Today, I knew it.