tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post4635124454402762655..comments2023-08-21T02:29:13.411-07:00Comments on Broken Heart Diaries: A big sigh and Christmasms. Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-20793693590173449812008-01-14T16:40:00.000-08:002008-01-14T16:40:00.000-08:00Congrats on the arrival of baby A! I am sorry abou...Congrats on the arrival of baby A! I am sorry about your loss of Baby M and your subsequent miscarriage. Your blog has helped me feel a little bit less lonely in my grief.CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-26419034592483616052008-01-11T15:07:00.000-08:002008-01-11T15:07:00.000-08:00Yep, post traumatic stress, I know I have some of ...Yep, post traumatic stress, I know I have some of that, for sure.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you are writing too. And I will have top check out that movie. I know it will be hard to see, but I have to experience it.meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-41109257206449328212008-01-10T18:22:00.000-08:002008-01-10T18:22:00.000-08:00I said this elsewhere, but I often wonder if I don...I said this elsewhere, but I often wonder if I don't want another child because I'm afraid people will forget Maddy. Not me of course, and you go to show that anyone who thinks this is just replacing a broken toaster is way off base. There will always be space in the family, and that emptiness will sadly be magnified at the holidays. I'm glad to see you writing again.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-44006313906250167732008-01-10T15:33:00.000-08:002008-01-10T15:33:00.000-08:00I am finding that I have less and less patience wi...I am finding that I have less and less patience with people who think things will be normal and all good when we have another living child. Yes, dammit, it is hard to talk to people in pain, but is it an excuse to minimize us, dehumanize our children? It shouldn't be. <BR/><BR/>I am sorry it was such a hard Christmas for you. Unfortunately, I think, that's the way it goes-- there is no way a living child won't remind you, vividly, of what was lost, of who is missing.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-33904793712346829902008-01-09T15:59:00.000-08:002008-01-09T15:59:00.000-08:00It makes me upset that some people want to share i...It makes me upset that some people want to share in the joy of Andy for the same reason you mentioned. They dote on him and pinch his cheeks and all. I want to scream at them, "why the hell don't you ever talk about Jimmy?". They want to celebrate the joys but don't want to be reminded of the lows. They want to hold you hand at the finish line but not when you are peeling yourself off the asphalt. <BR/><BR/>I hate that.<BR/><BR/>It's hard enough to deal with the emotions and hormones falling a pregnancy, much less to add in the stress and melancholy of the holidays. Add to that grieving for a lost child at it is just amazing you were able to enjoy any of it. I hear you.Mrs. Collinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13572508460850412007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-73373005937213262932008-01-09T06:16:00.000-08:002008-01-09T06:16:00.000-08:00So many bereaved moms I know who go on to have sub...So many bereaved moms I know who go on to have subsequent children say the pain of their loss never really goes away -- & in fact, the subsequent birth usually magnifies it. And the fact that everyone else expects that things are fine now only adds to their burden. (((hugs))) You had a lot on your plate this holiday!loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-9069978633221197212008-01-09T05:29:00.000-08:002008-01-09T05:29:00.000-08:00i SO need birth-after-stillbirth mamas to talk abo...i SO need birth-after-stillbirth mamas to talk about what it's like after their live baby is born. i know, i'm selfish.<BR/><BR/>it is such a temptation to get pregnant again...even for someone like me, who didn't expect to with paige, and didn't want more children (before). it's so confusing.<BR/><BR/>but i am so thankful for those like you, who can at least save me from the fantasy that having a live baby will take all the crap away. thanks.charmedgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317107200577724625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-34261301044994563712008-01-08T23:32:00.000-08:002008-01-08T23:32:00.000-08:00Birth and death DO go together and I'm glad someon...Birth and death DO go together and I'm glad someone (even if it was in a movie) finally said it. I'll have to see this movie.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry that only one person called you about M. That must have been difficult. I'm glad you posted about Christmas even if it is a couple weeks late. I hope you'r edoing well :)Monica Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14767867041043811045noreply@blogger.com