tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post4057866214105751284..comments2023-08-21T02:29:13.411-07:00Comments on Broken Heart Diaries: Speechlessms. Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-77968838104295462602007-12-03T18:55:00.000-08:002007-12-03T18:55:00.000-08:00You feel how you need to feel. You are doing what...You feel how you need to feel. You are doing what you need to do to get through each day and this time. It's okay to be scared.~Denise~https://www.blogger.com/profile/01586221664679114198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-5234901235516624932007-11-30T18:27:00.000-08:002007-11-30T18:27:00.000-08:00please, don't let the dark stuff frighten you into...please, don't let the dark stuff frighten you into editing. don't worry about us. we're all stark raving mad lunatics.<BR/><BR/>as for the baby items, they will come. breastfeeding...reading about it is NOT the same as doing it. sometimes the preconceived notions screw it up the most. in fact, here's a cliff-note version: be patient. it will probably hurt at first, and getting the kid to latch-on correctly may be frustrating. it will all work out if you don't supplement. when you decide to wean, you will feel infinitely guilty. between the beginning and the end, it's pretty nice, and convenient, too. the end. <BR/><BR/>somehow that question, "will i survive?" will probably suit any outcome at this point. even the wonderful live-baby one you are going to have.charmedgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317107200577724625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-53642148628610646422007-11-28T22:02:00.000-08:002007-11-28T22:02:00.000-08:00You just roll with it however you need to! There ...You just roll with it however you need to! There is no rule book for this sort of thing, and everyone is so different anyway. The baby will be oblivious to the lack of "stuff', and honestly I gotta say I'm not really sure what you can do to "prepare" for breastfeeding anyway. It will be just fine if both you and baby girl figure out things as you go along- it is what you would end up doing anyway.<BR/><BR/>I am thinking of you.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528541804521203406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-79971710741412057962007-11-28T17:36:00.000-08:002007-11-28T17:36:00.000-08:00I totally second what Niobe said.We never get to s...I totally second what Niobe said.<BR/><BR/>We never get to see the world the same way again.<BR/><BR/>Sending you good thoughts.<BR/>~CaroleThe Goddess Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082406024088862566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-90712982201906189332007-11-27T16:22:00.000-08:002007-11-27T16:22:00.000-08:00All this makes total sense. I would be exactly th...All this makes total sense. I would be exactly the same way.<BR/><BR/>And you are right, that's what younger sisters are for!meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-33487076008128301312007-11-27T14:03:00.000-08:002007-11-27T14:03:00.000-08:00And babies don't really need all that much stuff a...And babies don't really need all that much stuff anyway. I'm glad to hear you're letting yourself feel whatever you feel. Because everything you say sounds completely reasonable to me.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-47333703175118741242007-11-27T11:59:00.000-08:002007-11-27T11:59:00.000-08:00As hard as it is the reality that we all know, is ...As hard as it is the reality that we all know, is you do survive a loss. It's not pretty. It's horrific but you survive. Be it one, two or more losses. <BR/><BR/>During my pregnancies after loss, I was afraid of surviving another loss. Of having to live in that intense grief again is enough to cause anyone extreme panic. <BR/><BR/>Just as there was no right or wrong away to do anything after your baby died, there is no right or wrong way to handle a pregnancy after loss. Do what you want. Think what you want. <BR/><BR/>My sick joke that I would repeat to people..."well, I was optimistic the first time...so I'm trying the pessimistic route this time".Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07362574669374990320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-84562070147778280032007-11-27T10:33:00.000-08:002007-11-27T10:33:00.000-08:00I get it. I have stuff now only because we live to...I get it. I have stuff now only because we live too far away from family to get it right after the birth and they forced it on us. It's not great, but okay, to have around. But Julia's right - the stuff is not a measure of love.Beruriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171541078529309991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-63464780065047235822007-11-27T10:28:00.000-08:002007-11-27T10:28:00.000-08:00I am no expert, but from where I sit, all of this ...I am no expert, but from where I sit, all of this is very normal. And yes, owning stuff is not a measure of love or of bonding. Tell them to take a hike. If you'd like that is. <BR/><BR/>I told my OB's nurse that loosing another will probably break me. So entirely not unusual or strange in any way. I think preparing for the worst is our defense mechanism. Trying it on, as it were.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.com