tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post3117493015639845734..comments2023-08-21T02:29:13.411-07:00Comments on Broken Heart Diaries: Differencesms. Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-64981694463521322292007-09-10T12:49:00.000-07:002007-09-10T12:49:00.000-07:00I agree with Niobe...this whole thing has given me...I agree with Niobe...this whole thing has given me a new set of eyes. I don't think 'when' anymore.<BR/><BR/>You are not a brat at all. I have spent the last 9 years trying to train my husband...sometimes it works...sometimes...not so much.<BR/>~CaroleThe Goddess Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082406024088862566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-29074302369787896402007-09-09T14:22:00.000-07:002007-09-09T14:22:00.000-07:00I don't think I'll ever think "when" about anyone'...I don't think I'll ever think "when" about anyone's pregnancy ever again. It doesn't annoy me, but it makes me nervous when I hear people talking with complete and total confidence, seemingly oblivious that something might go wrong. Though, of course I do realize that in the vast majority of cases everything will be just fine.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-76748031120987596352007-09-08T09:36:00.000-07:002007-09-08T09:36:00.000-07:00You are so not a brat, Ms. G. I am of the "if" ca...You are so not a brat, Ms. G. I am of the "if" camp and my husband is of the "when" camp. The other day he said "The dog's going to like having a baby around." I looked at him with a blank look for a second and then I realized that he's talking about the para-trooper and he's taking about me! It seems so unimaginable to me--that there will be a live, take home baby--that it rarely makes it to the forefront of my mind.<BR/><BR/>I would be annoyed with the family stuff--thankfully we don't have to deal with that (they don't know). My husband really wants to have some hope too and he talks much like Mr. G. does. I just tell him, not to get his hopes up--but then I feel mean saying that too.<BR/><BR/>There is no easy answer for this, we just have to do whatever we have to do, to make it through this--with most of our sanity!meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-87762615308801338202007-09-08T05:27:00.000-07:002007-09-08T05:27:00.000-07:00My husband and I are definitely similar when it co...My husband and I are definitely similar when it comes to this - although some days he's more effortfully positive while on others I am (made up that word, effortfully but it feels accurate). But everyone else is all about the "whens." Probably for the reasons Monica mentioned. Like you, I think, "um, remember last time?" It feels more like a betrayal than support. But for your husbands, I suppose they're struggling to cope, & figure out their role.Beruriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171541078529309991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-55528366515033322702007-09-07T22:08:00.000-07:002007-09-07T22:08:00.000-07:00If you are a brat, then I'm a mega-brat. My DH do...If you are a brat, then I'm a mega-brat. My DH does the same thing. He's always so upbeat and positive about this pregnancy. He always admonishes me for saying "if" instead of "when". I think deep down inside our DHs know that lightening can strike twice (although it probably won't), and they are trying to pretend it can't. They probably do it because they think it makes us feel better. But what we really need is support.Mrs. Collinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13572508460850412007noreply@blogger.com