tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post2294432717684372405..comments2023-08-21T02:29:13.411-07:00Comments on Broken Heart Diaries: What happened nextms. Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15263348912679823512noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-15961916551605593102007-05-30T05:54:00.000-07:002007-05-30T05:54:00.000-07:00First, let me say how sorry I am for the loss of y...First, let me say how sorry I am for the loss of your son. I wish I did not have reason to understand any of what you are talking about, but I do. Yes, "flashbacks" happen to me too. I liken it to what a post-traumatic stress patient must go through. In fact, I have even had one doctor tell me that he thinks it IS a form of PTSD. Luckily, the episodes haven't been too intense or frequent (they have not interfered with my life in any substantive way). If they ever do, you can bet I will be in therapy. I've seen what PTSD can do to people and I don't want to end up like that.<BR/><BR/>Now, let me rant...<BR/><BR/>Yes, you should get a new doctor. I had an uneasy feeling like you describe with my pregnancy with my second son (my first stillbirth) in 2005. I truly believe that if I had listened to myself and gotten a new doctor that my son would have had a fighting chance. There is absolutely NO reason your medical treatment professionals should talk to you in anything other than a professional manner. If you say something isn't right, they should give it proper attention. Only YOU know your body (and your mind)...and to even TRY to diagnose over the telephone is...in a word...malpractice.<BR/><BR/>Yes, you should write a letter. If your doctor is affiliated with a bigger hospital/medical organization, send the letter to the patient care ombudsman. You may be shocked how quickly they will respond. <BR/><BR/>It is absolutely essential that you find a doctor's office who is willing to work WITH you...to make YOU comfortable. I can tell you from personal experience that it makes a world of difference.<BR/><BR/>Good luck! I look forward to reading more about your journey toward a happy and healthy baby. :o)Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160908955133304449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-31136238525673540732007-05-30T05:44:00.000-07:002007-05-30T05:44:00.000-07:00Well first thing, congratulations! I understand so...Well first thing, congratulations! I understand so well, though, how the fear immediately returns. But for now I can be happy for you.<BR/><BR/>I wrote a 3-page letter after leaving my old doctor - don't know if it got read but it felt darn good to write and send. I got so angry reading about how you were treated. Niobe's right. I don't know how I would be surviving if I didn't have a doctor's practice that understands my fears.<BR/><BR/>Your reaction to the doctor's office makes sense, especially especially given how poorly they've been treating you. They haven't been making the slightest effort to help you get through this emotionally.<BR/><BR/>I hope that after you change your medical plan, you are able to quickly find a more sympathetic doctor.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887313952590843057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498447762327844508.post-77284959098225614982007-05-30T04:22:00.000-07:002007-05-30T04:22:00.000-07:00If you know what you want (being able to come in f...If you know what you want (being able to come in for ultrasounds frequently, doctors who are sympathetic, being assured you can get in touch with the doctors when you need to), I think you should just ask straight out if those things are available in the practice. It's such a stressful situation anyway. Your medical practice should be trying to help make it better, not worse.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.com